Flow is something I try to attain and work on every day. Flow is also referred to as “On the money” and “In a groove”. According to the definition on Wikipedia, Flow is a mental state of operation where you are fully immersed in whatever you are doing. The best example that comes to mind is sports. The best, most clear, and exhilarating moments of flow I have had in my life was during my high school basketball career. Besides sports, I have also felt it in engaging conversations, school projects, writing my thoughts, and even driving.

The father of Flow, psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, lists the components of flow and also tips on how groups could flow together here.

When I think of flow, I think of passion, drive, purpose, and love. To really enjoy life to the fullest and savour the moment sort of speak, always try to find your flow, your groove in whatever it you set out to do in life. Be it your job, relationships, your home and hobbies, if you have trouble trying to find flow with it, chances are you probably could be happier doing something else. Every successful person of their trade has mastered the art of flow, from Kobe and Tiger to Mark Cuban. They find something they love to do, and excel at it.

In any situation you put yourself in in life, ask yourself the crucial and deep question: “Got Flow?”

Lets face it, we all have arguments with anybody and everybody, and even with the people we love the most. Some big, alot small; arguments are typical among any human relationship. I for one, am not afraid of arguments like others I know, not because I am an Aquarius (just joking), but because I love to debate and see what others around me think or feel about anything and everything. Arguments do not have to a bad thing, or avoided. You can learn a lot about not only the other person, or the topic at hand, but you can and learn a whole lot about yourself. Its unhealthy to just forget or avoid arguments with people you care about and just bottle up your feelings inside, or even worse, momentarily forget them. Handling these situations effectively is a much needed communication skill.

I am going to write about 3 steps to handling arguments effectively. Arguments can easily be a win-win situation for both people involved. Not only can you have happier relationships, but you will solve conflicts much more efficiently without wasting emotion, time, and feeling like shit for the rest of the day. Most of all, you will be more happy and content with no regrets about your relationships.

The first step will be posted shortly, and Steps #2 and #3 will be posted throughout this week.

DISCLAIMER: This is meant to help your arguments among your own personal relationships (friends, family, GF or BF, colleagues, etc) NOT random strangers. I do not recommend wasting any time arguing with people that do not matter to you. With me personally, 99.9% of arguments with people that I am not in an actual relationship with are complete BS and offer no benefits, so I recommend avoiding these situations.